爱情和事业，你选择哪个？

有时候我会觉得很矛盾。
如果你的男人是个生意人，
他有时候会因为忙于生意而忽略了你，
你会怎么办？
背后的女人是要体谅吗？
我知道事业对一个男人来说是很重要的，
但你的女人，你的家庭就没那么重要吗？
当然我也不希望男人因为女人而把工作做得马马虎虎。

最近听到一句很有意思的话，“成功男人的背后一定有个很能忍的女人。”， 而不是我们经常听到的 “成功男人的背后有一个伟大的女人”。对我而言，伟大的女人并不能代表她很能忍。所以，能忍的女人才是强者。试问有谁能够耐得住寂寞，在你的男人忙于工作时，你不能只是呆在家，等他回来；或则一直闹着你的男人是不是不爱你了，为什么不理你等等理由。你一定要有自己的生活，打理好家里，当你的男人回来时端上一杯水，让他感受到家的温暖，所有压力都会消失。而不是当男人拖着疲惫的身子回家，换来的是女人的责骂，女人的疑神疑鬼，这样男人都会不想回家，而造成有第三者出现的问题。所以，女人真的要学会体贴，信任你的男人，这才会让他的事业成功，然后回到家也能舒舒服服的。因为他知道他不用担心他的女人。

可是，女人啊，还是会希望自己的男人能够多陪陪她。就算再忙，也希望男人可以抽空回她的讯息，或则偶尔的撒娇，说你想她了。女人不奢望你能秒回，但有你的讯息，真的能让她安心。

所以啊，学着互相体谅吧。生命很短暂，要珍惜对方。男人，我会好好的珍惜你，体谅你。希望你也能够珍惜我对你的好。

Random

This blog is dying~ Other than my UMK post, Gardenia post and movie/drama review, the rest of the posts are like no view at all. LOL!! Never mind, I still want to post something randomly just because I am bored now. *syok sendiri*

Something that makes me crazy recently:
- junk food especially potato chips
- social media. I spent too much time on it and I can't helped. Had tried to uninstall but it doesn't last long. LOL
- him of course ^^ and not just recently but for quite sometime already. I just hope to meet him everyday and probably request to move in to stay with him. However, this is not going to happen unless we get married. My family is very traditional one..

*Yawn* I am so sleepy right now.

Lots of thinking recently about my work, relationship, etc.

- I have been thinking to do a business, but nothing came into my mind.

- Go on for a long vacation, but where's the money and the leave approval?

- I want to go Paris so much!

- My colleague is watching YouTube at the workplace right now.. shhhhhh! I guess he really likes basketball.

- My boss just told us a funny joke when he went to renew his passport. He said if you want to be fast, walk in front of "certain" people (sensitive), eventually they will just push you forward.. LOL

- 2.5 hours more to go back home. Should I go for a body check up?

- I still found this guava drink very weird, but m drinking it.. ahahahaha perhaps would like to try everything that you tasted before.

- Will you ever contact me if I went missing?

Girl's mind that changed within second.

All right, done with the messy random post. Bye!








 

It happens, but it doesn't exist

I am not sure if I am happy.
I think I have lost myself.

The world is so fake, I am fake.
It feels like I am living in a paper towns.

What do I want in life?
Money? Love? Health?

I love you at first.
and I think I am still loving you.
Did you see the word "think"?
Yes, I doubt myself now.
I still think about you,
or maybe the past of you.
but it's blur,
there's nothing in my mind.

I called your name everyday.
but I can't feel the pounding heart.
maybe I din't see you for quite sometime,
but I am sure I did not forget you.

Home, is where I live,
but I don't feel like going home.
I just want to stay somewhere else,
alone.

The conversation is connected but disconnected,
if you understand what I mean.
Who am I?
I wish you can tell me.

Work, the robotic routine.
but I don't see myself mastering anything.
perhaps I do not like the job,
or this field.
I am annoyed, I am bored.
I wanted to leave, but I have no where to go.
I just need a living fees.

Passion? Interest?
Who are they?
Do I have one?
I am not sure.

Healthy body, is no longer with me.
I am suffering from a goddamn abdominal pain.
It's so pain that I can barely walk when it's back.
Scanning, urine test, ultrasound or whatever test,
but the result said I am healthy.
only myself know the pain.

This post is so random but it is true.

It happens, but it just doesn't exist.

Hello Friday.


*****

A few hours later, I can feel the pounding heart when I look at your photos.
The feeling never gone.
I miss you, my dear.

Next few hours, I received your text..
aww that feeling is back!!!

爱的禁区

When Leaders Accidentally Demoralize Employees

Came across an article shared on LinkedIn by Bruce Kasanoff, I feel it is worth to share with the readers of my blog (although there's no one >.<).

Last year, I met a friend – let’s call him Brian – for a beer, and he greeted me by admitting, “I think I’m going to get fired.”

Earlier that afternoon, Brian was in a meeting with the CEO of his firm, and the CEO “barely said a word” to him, looked down the whole time and rushed out of the room “so he wouldn’t have to talk to” Brian.

In fairness, the firm was going through some challenging times and it seemed likely that some people would be let go. But Brian’s entire demeanor that day was based on his perception of how his CEO interacted with him.

Brian wasn’t fired, is still there and seems to remain in good standing. He completely misperceived his CEO’s behaviors, which almost certainly had nothing whatsoever to do with Brian. Maybe the CEO was worried about a deal gone south. Perhaps he was coming down with a cold. There are hundreds of reasons why any one of us might be quiet, sullen or rushed.

Unfortunately, when you are a leader, the people around you are forever trying to calibrate whether your reactions indicate approval or disapproval.

There are two ways you can react to this truism.

1. You can act any way you damn well please, and leave it to your employees to develop thicker skins. There are plenty of leaders who favor this approach, and it has some merits.

2. You can realize that we expect more of our leaders, and as a result you have an obligation to be more in command of your actions than a random person on the street. In other words, you need to hold yourself to a higher standard.

I’d like to suggest that you embrace number 2.

In a perfect world, your company would always be firing on all cylinders and no one would be afraid for his or her job. In the real world, some employees are always nervous or in need of encouragement. As a leader, you can accomplish much with a genuine smile, a kind word, or a small bit of guidance. Your opinion matters, and everyone else knows it.

This influence is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it requires you to act cheerful when you are tired and hungry. On the other, it enables you to motivate others without exerting that much energy. Simply by saying something to the effect of, “Sarah, that was a spectacular piece of work,” you can probably boost Sarah’s morale for an entire quarter.

I’m not telling you anything you don’t know. My purpose today isn’t to reveal some great secret passed down from generation to generation.

I’m simply trying to remind you that when you let down your guard, there are consequences. If you (seem to) ignore or avoid the people you are supposed to be leading, they will notice. You will accidentally upset the very people it is your job to inspire.

If you consider yourself a leader, you must be constantly vigilant regarding the small social signals you offer to the people around you.  Never demoralize someone accidentally. For that matter, don't do it deliberately either, but that's a subject for another post.

This story originally appeared on Forbes.

In my view, a leader's reaction and words are really important, it's a bridge for you to get closer to your junior/follower, to understand more about them and from there, you motivate them if necessary. 

Even though you are tired or being emotional, try not to throw your temper to your junior as this will create some unnecessary misunderstanding between you two. As the word "junior", it means they are lack of experience and new to the field. It's normal if they make mistake, but guide them patiently, do not scold them immediately, understand their problem and why they will do like this. NEVER ever say something that will demotivate or demoralize them, for example "why are you so stupid", "this is so not meaningful", "did you bring your brain to work", "simple things also you can make mistake"; no smile on your face, bang the door loud, raise your volume, etc... All these will just make your followers to be afraid of you or hate you. 

Thus, perhaps you can twist your words by saying "Your work is good, but it can be improved further. You may want to try to add in this and that so that it can make your work perfect?". I think this is more encouraging and can motivate them to work harder. No one likes to get scolded. Imagine if you are working hard on one of the projects, and your superior straight away comment that your work is so lousy and not giving his suggestion or direction to you to improve further, what will you feel? Very demotivated and don't feel like working on it anymore right as you feel your hard work is not being valued. This reminded me of one of my friends who always complain that his boss only knows how to scold, but never give the solution, that makes thing harder. By accumulating all the pressure and complaint, you will see your followers will want to resign.

In a nutshell, a leader who is good in managing his/her EQ , you will be loved by your followers.

It seems like I have off topic. LOL

Courtesy of Visually Infographic

Courtesy of Empathia