爱情和事业，你选择哪个？

有时候我会觉得很矛盾。
如果你的男人是个生意人，
他有时候会因为忙于生意而忽略了你，
你会怎么办？
背后的女人是要体谅吗？
我知道事业对一个男人来说是很重要的，
但你的女人，你的家庭就没那么重要吗？
当然我也不希望男人因为女人而把工作做得马马虎虎。

最近听到一句很有意思的话，“成功男人的背后一定有个很能忍的女人。”， 而不是我们经常听到的 “成功男人的背后有一个伟大的女人”。对我而言，伟大的女人并不能代表她很能忍。所以，能忍的女人才是强者。试问有谁能够耐得住寂寞，在你的男人忙于工作时，你不能只是呆在家，等他回来；或则一直闹着你的男人是不是不爱你了，为什么不理你等等理由。你一定要有自己的生活，打理好家里，当你的男人回来时端上一杯水，让他感受到家的温暖，所有压力都会消失。而不是当男人拖着疲惫的身子回家，换来的是女人的责骂，女人的疑神疑鬼，这样男人都会不想回家，而造成有第三者出现的问题。所以，女人真的要学会体贴，信任你的男人，这才会让他的事业成功，然后回到家也能舒舒服服的。因为他知道他不用担心他的女人。

可是，女人啊，还是会希望自己的男人能够多陪陪她。就算再忙，也希望男人可以抽空回她的讯息，或则偶尔的撒娇，说你想她了。女人不奢望你能秒回，但有你的讯息，真的能让她安心。

所以啊，学着互相体谅吧。生命很短暂，要珍惜对方。男人，我会好好的珍惜你，体谅你。希望你也能够珍惜我对你的好。

Random

This blog is dying~ Other than my UMK post, Gardenia post and movie/drama review, the rest of the posts are like no view at all. LOL!! Never mind, I still want to post something randomly just because I am bored now. *syok sendiri*

Something that makes me crazy recently:
- junk food especially potato chips
- social media. I spent too much time on it and I can't helped. Had tried to uninstall but it doesn't last long. LOL
- him of course ^^ and not just recently but for quite sometime already. I just hope to meet him everyday and probably request to move in to stay with him. However, this is not going to happen unless we get married. My family is very traditional one..

*Yawn* I am so sleepy right now.

Lots of thinking recently about my work, relationship, etc.

- I have been thinking to do a business, but nothing came into my mind.

- Go on for a long vacation, but where's the money and the leave approval?

- I want to go Paris so much!

- My colleague is watching YouTube at the workplace right now.. shhhhhh! I guess he really likes basketball.

- My boss just told us a funny joke when he went to renew his passport. He said if you want to be fast, walk in front of "certain" people (sensitive), eventually they will just push you forward.. LOL

- 2.5 hours more to go back home. Should I go for a body check up?

- I still found this guava drink very weird, but m drinking it.. ahahahaha perhaps would like to try everything that you tasted before.

- Will you ever contact me if I went missing?

Girl's mind that changed within second.

All right, done with the messy random post. Bye!








 

It happens, but it doesn't exist

I am not sure if I am happy.
I think I have lost myself.

The world is so fake, I am fake.
It feels like I am living in a paper towns.

What do I want in life?
Money? Love? Health?

I love you at first.
and I think I am still loving you.
Did you see the word "think"?
Yes, I doubt myself now.
I still think about you,
or maybe the past of you.
but it's blur,
there's nothing in my mind.

I called your name everyday.
but I can't feel the pounding heart.
maybe I din't see you for quite sometime,
but I am sure I did not forget you.

Home, is where I live,
but I don't feel like going home.
I just want to stay somewhere else,
alone.

The conversation is connected but disconnected,
if you understand what I mean.
Who am I?
I wish you can tell me.

Work, the robotic routine.
but I don't see myself mastering anything.
perhaps I do not like the job,
or this field.
I am annoyed, I am bored.
I wanted to leave, but I have no where to go.
I just need a living fees.

Passion? Interest?
Who are they?
Do I have one?
I am not sure.

Healthy body, is no longer with me.
I am suffering from a goddamn abdominal pain.
It's so pain that I can barely walk when it's back.
Scanning, urine test, ultrasound or whatever test,
but the result said I am healthy.
only myself know the pain.

This post is so random but it is true.

It happens, but it just doesn't exist.

Hello Friday.


*****

A few hours later, I can feel the pounding heart when I look at your photos.
The feeling never gone.
I miss you, my dear.

Next few hours, I received your text..
aww that feeling is back!!!

爱的禁区

When Leaders Accidentally Demoralize Employees

Came across an article shared on LinkedIn by Bruce Kasanoff, I feel it is worth to share with the readers of my blog (although there's no one >.<).

Last year, I met a friend – let’s call him Brian – for a beer, and he greeted me by admitting, “I think I’m going to get fired.”

Earlier that afternoon, Brian was in a meeting with the CEO of his firm, and the CEO “barely said a word” to him, looked down the whole time and rushed out of the room “so he wouldn’t have to talk to” Brian.

In fairness, the firm was going through some challenging times and it seemed likely that some people would be let go. But Brian’s entire demeanor that day was based on his perception of how his CEO interacted with him.

Brian wasn’t fired, is still there and seems to remain in good standing. He completely misperceived his CEO’s behaviors, which almost certainly had nothing whatsoever to do with Brian. Maybe the CEO was worried about a deal gone south. Perhaps he was coming down with a cold. There are hundreds of reasons why any one of us might be quiet, sullen or rushed.

Unfortunately, when you are a leader, the people around you are forever trying to calibrate whether your reactions indicate approval or disapproval.

There are two ways you can react to this truism.

1. You can act any way you damn well please, and leave it to your employees to develop thicker skins. There are plenty of leaders who favor this approach, and it has some merits.

2. You can realize that we expect more of our leaders, and as a result you have an obligation to be more in command of your actions than a random person on the street. In other words, you need to hold yourself to a higher standard.

I’d like to suggest that you embrace number 2.

In a perfect world, your company would always be firing on all cylinders and no one would be afraid for his or her job. In the real world, some employees are always nervous or in need of encouragement. As a leader, you can accomplish much with a genuine smile, a kind word, or a small bit of guidance. Your opinion matters, and everyone else knows it.

This influence is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it requires you to act cheerful when you are tired and hungry. On the other, it enables you to motivate others without exerting that much energy. Simply by saying something to the effect of, “Sarah, that was a spectacular piece of work,” you can probably boost Sarah’s morale for an entire quarter.

I’m not telling you anything you don’t know. My purpose today isn’t to reveal some great secret passed down from generation to generation.

I’m simply trying to remind you that when you let down your guard, there are consequences. If you (seem to) ignore or avoid the people you are supposed to be leading, they will notice. You will accidentally upset the very people it is your job to inspire.

If you consider yourself a leader, you must be constantly vigilant regarding the small social signals you offer to the people around you.  Never demoralize someone accidentally. For that matter, don't do it deliberately either, but that's a subject for another post.

This story originally appeared on Forbes.

In my view, a leader's reaction and words are really important, it's a bridge for you to get closer to your junior/follower, to understand more about them and from there, you motivate them if necessary. 

Even though you are tired or being emotional, try not to throw your temper to your junior as this will create some unnecessary misunderstanding between you two. As the word "junior", it means they are lack of experience and new to the field. It's normal if they make mistake, but guide them patiently, do not scold them immediately, understand their problem and why they will do like this. NEVER ever say something that will demotivate or demoralize them, for example "why are you so stupid", "this is so not meaningful", "did you bring your brain to work", "simple things also you can make mistake"; no smile on your face, bang the door loud, raise your volume, etc... All these will just make your followers to be afraid of you or hate you. 

Thus, perhaps you can twist your words by saying "Your work is good, but it can be improved further. You may want to try to add in this and that so that it can make your work perfect?". I think this is more encouraging and can motivate them to work harder. No one likes to get scolded. Imagine if you are working hard on one of the projects, and your superior straight away comment that your work is so lousy and not giving his suggestion or direction to you to improve further, what will you feel? Very demotivated and don't feel like working on it anymore right as you feel your hard work is not being valued. This reminded me of one of my friends who always complain that his boss only knows how to scold, but never give the solution, that makes thing harder. By accumulating all the pressure and complaint, you will see your followers will want to resign.

In a nutshell, a leader who is good in managing his/her EQ , you will be loved by your followers.

It seems like I have off topic. LOL

Courtesy of Visually Infographic

Courtesy of Empathia

拥有的勇气

有时候，我会恨我自己对人太好，结果却苦了自己。
我想前进，可是有些人会要我往后退；
往后退， 就是等于不给自己一个机会。
当然往前进，也并不代表我会得到我想要的东西，而且还可能会惹上是非问题，惹人讨厌。

我好想逃离，但却深怕以后的我，会后悔当初为什么不勇敢的去争取自己喜欢的东西/人。
我当然很想努力的去追求，但事情并不是想像中的简单。
或许，我就是个懦夫吧。只能站在原地，眼睁睁的看着自己喜欢的，离我远去。

可能我觉得我没资格拥有吧。
你喜欢的，不代表你就能拥有。
有些事情，真的需要配合天时地利人和。当然少不了缘分。

我常告诉自己，如果是你的，永远就是你的。
勉强得来的，并不会长久。
可是现在的人啊，只会说：“我不在乎天长地久，只在乎曾经拥有”。
这样的观念是正确的吗？

见人见事吧，有些人会说至少你曾经拥有过，没有遗憾就好了。
听起来很像很有道理。
可是我比较贪心，我想拥有直到永远。。。

说了那么久，我还没想到我该前进，还是后退呢。。呵呵
哎，顺其自然吧。
天佑我心想事成！

Drama Review: Full House Thailand

Finally got some time to watch a drama after hectic life. This time, I choose to watch Full House Thai because of Aom (Aom Sucharat Manaying). Full House Thai is a remake of the Korean version of Full House and guess what, I have never watched the Korean version before although it is a super hit! hehehe I just finished watching this about a week and I started to miss it!

***** My rate for this lakorn : 8.5/10 *****

The story is started with Aom, a writer who got swindled out of her house during her trip to Korea and there's where she met Mike (Mike Pirath Nitipaisankul). She finds out that her house was sold to Mike after her trip and in attempt to get her possessions back by making a lot of "drama". Due to her "drama", she ends up signing a contract marriage with Mike for one (or two?) year. What started out as business relationship between the two becomes personal as they start to care for each others.............

Copied from here.

Overall the drama is daebak (awesome) and I am loving it including the OSTs! The only part I don't like was it last only for a few episodes, wish this drama can last for like 100+ episodes hehehe.  Oh ya, another thing that I don't like in this drama was the female best friend of Mike, Mintra. The way she treats Mike and Guy really make me want to punch on her face straight, but it shows that her acting skill is good! I really don't wish there's someone like her appear in my life, my patience is not that great like Aom. I can't stand the one I love going through something that he doesn't like or force to do it due to the promises he has made earlier or due to his guiltiness. I know his intention is don't want to hurt the girl anymore, but what is past is past. I don't mind if you still meet with her or treat her nicely, but when you already have a girlfriend, you can no longer treat that girl like you used to be, you have to treat that girl like a normal friend. You have to know what is your priority now.. Opps, I sound so jealous.. hahaha

She is the one that I mentioned.. Mintra (Jane Janesuda Parnto)
I don't like her role in this lakorn

Ok, let's change a topic. There are so many scenes that make me burst out of laughs and some makes me shed my tears too. There are a few scenes that I love, especially the ice cream scene. You won't know how many times I watch this scene. Everytime I watch this scene I will definitely make a awwwwwwwww sound and hoping I am the female cast. Other scenes are when they quarrel due to jealousy; their sweet moment during ice skating; Aom's dancing part in front of grandma. I was expecting some soft Thai dance move, but end up something funny LOL!; and of course, those scenes where they make fun of each other. Let me show you some of the photos that I can grab online.. 

I will leave the imagination to you all.

When Mike is injured...

Om-Am accidentally saw something that she don't expect, ngek ngek ngek

Fighting for bed .. 

Sweet moment together

There wasn't a script when they are shooting for this scene.. kind of funny

Aom is trying to impress her grandma with an impromptu dance and her grandma fainted because of that.. LOL

Look at that body... *droolz*

I am not sure whether you will feel excited and eager to watch this drama or not after reading this post. For me, I will definitely watch again. Hehehe. I really love seeing AoMike being together and I can't wait for their next project (Playful Kiss). Yay!

AoMike

One of the OST of this lakorn - Oh Baby I

To view this full drama, you may watch it from Youtube with English Subtitle ^^
Enjoy!

Had a dream about you

I had a sweet dream yesterday...

There's a scene where a guy (Tall and wearing white formal long sleeve) and I were waiting along the street. We weren't talking at that time, so I looked upon the night sky and I saw the galaxy!!! It was so clear so I quickly ask him to view it. At that time, we saw meteor rain too!!!! It's really beautiful because I never had a chance to see it in my real life. So I quickly make a wish which is to be with him forever... Perhaps he knows my wish and I don't know why he started to sob. He felt sorry for treating me cold recently, and he told me lots of things were bothering him. I wiped off his tear and said I understand, that is why I never blame him because I have promised him to stay beside him forever. Then we hugged, it was the longest and warmest hug I had after so long. Since that moment, I think he cleared off his mind and we are in a relationship after that. Everything is too sweet for me until I don't wish to wake up from this dream =) 

I don't know why I will dream about this, maybe I watched too much of drama recently and I started creating my own drama in the dream? Or maybe I wanted this ending to be happening in my real life which I think is impossible. I once heard people said that if we had a dream of someone, it's either they are thinking of us (not in this case, I think) or if we want to get over someone and finding ourself not being able to do so, it could be that we haven't resolved all of our issues we are supposed to work out with that person. Whatever it is, it's just a random dream. 

Lost in direction

Have you ever wondered how much have you grown up from the past few years?..

I asked myself these few days..

I think I've grown up a lot..

I think a lot more before I made any decision..

I am starting to plan for my future...

and that's the hardest part..

Career: 

- What kind of field will I ended with in the future?

- Do I really want to be an environmentalist? (my major is in environment field) -.-"

- If I don't want to be an environmentalist, what else can I do? Am I good in other thing else?

- Will it be better if I leave the job now? (I am currently working as a sustainability executive with low salary)

- Will I get a better offer? 

- Will I get a chance to do something that I like?

Study:

- Should I further studies to change my field?

- If yes, what should I study?

- What is the benefit of further studies? Higher pay? More job opportunities?

- If I do not want to further studies, do I satisfy with my current degree??

- Should I get the loan although I have enough money to pay for the course fee now..

Money:

- Since I am not the entrepreneur type, therefore I can only save money instead of earning money. 

- With the current salary, when will I be able to buy a house and a car? Can I make my dream come true in 10 years time?

- I am planning to go Europe before age of 30, but that require at least 5k. If I further studies, do I have enough time to save that amount of money for me to go Europe in 3 years time? 

- When will I be able to sponsor my whole family to go for a trip?

All these questions might seem easy to answer and some might even say I am still young, don't have to think of all this. But let's say if I can live until age of 100, I already past the quarter of my life. Life is too short for me to waste, I don't want to regret in the later age where I will regret why I did not plan properly when I was young.. 

Anyway, I believe God has a proper plan for me, so let me just enjoy my life and be happy.

致最亲爱的你

有人说一生之中一定会遇到某个人，他打破你的原则，成为你的例外，成就你全世界的幸福。他打破了我的原则，只不过现在还不是时候能成就我全世界的幸福。

再等等吧，等待爱情的时间往往超过真正恋爱的时间，就像等待花朵的时间往往超过花朵绽放的时间.. 当花朵绽放的时候, 我就是全世界最幸福的女人..

此刻的我，只想未来的路，有你牵着我的手一起走过。